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The last few days of the year have a way of stirring up all sorts of philosophical questions that beg to be answered. And in keeping with the theme of things, I find myself getting introspective, philosophical… and perpetually in flashback mode

This has really not been a great year for me. Things started on a hopeful note with Jan. With lists, with to – dos… with plans… but somehow, the year hasn’t panned out like I thought.  In a way I am relieved that this year is almost over… I might just be speaking too soon …

I’ve had to deal with a lady boss. I person I have no respect for. And a person I’d be extremely cool to, if I might her outside office.  She pretty much made my 8 hours of work feel really really long… took away all my enthusiasm about my office being a great, fun place and gave me unnecessary work to complete her own KPIs. Not to mention other stuff that I’ve ranted about enough.

Things at the personal front haven’t really worked either, with mom and MIL both going for surgeries… with my own problems with the baby planning and all.

I have also felt at some level exasperated with all the work outside of office that I have had to handle. The home, the maids, the errands…

And then I have been frequently sick and blah and blah and blah

Almost feels like kisi ki nazar lag gayi thi. I feel bruised somehow. But I’m nursing myself back to health!

To be fair… its not all been gloomy either…. we have still had our share of fun, thanks to our awesome friends. I know that very few of them read this blog and don’t even know that I am talking about them… but thank you guys… all of you, for taking our minds off all the nonsense that has been going around us… for being sounding boards.. .and party freaks… and funny … and silly… for bringing sunshine into our hearts and home. Everyone had troubles…but we handheld each other through them…we love you. 🙂

And I think I have derived the maximum support from my parents. To lighten up heavy moments, to bring a sense of perspective when it went missing, for cheering me up, for listening to my cribbing, for sending us things all the way from Delhi, and for prayers and blessing

Okay, now I’m feeling a leeetle cheered up… there are some good things that happened too!

1. I lost weight 🙂

2. We went on trips – Assam, Pune, South of India

3. More of our friends moved to B’lore

4. We bought some material goods

5. I learnt how to drive

6. And despite all the bloddy obstacles, I have completed my KRAs and KPIs. 

Hope that 2011 may be a beautiful, happy, sunshiny, sparkly year for all of us 🙂

I can’t believe I’ve been away so many days without thinking about the blog… especially since there are so many things I could have written about too.

Sunshine world is all sunshiny at this point in time.. I’m just back from a totally rockingly awesome weekend. We had friends over again from Mumbai and there was another friends wedding so over the weekend, we kinda met people from college and from PG and friends of friends and friends of those friends 🙂

I’ve got to see two wives of two friends I’ve never met before… and despite me being judgemental me about things like these… I liked them!

….maybe I’m mellowing down! (Damn!)

and becoming a good hostess maybe too!

We also savoured really good southie and northie food… and from that angle too.. life is bliss..

…and I didn’t even hate coming to office today morning!

Okay…. this is looking like a no – context post from a gushing brainless teenager. I know I have better things to say….

I mean.. world peace…. philosophy.. etc etc… except that you would probably have to wait for more of my well thought out type of posts to come… But in the meanwhile… this is just for an update …. and to keep the blogging tradition going

Take care you guys!

PS: Don’t really count on that post about philosophy.. world peace.. etc… okay?!?!

Hello everyone!

Sorry for the really really long absence… I had honestly meant to be back after my vacations and write one big fat post with snaps and memories and pointers and all, but everything just took a whirlwind type of turn and I was kinda lost with all that was happening and blogging took a backseat

…please stop sulking and please forgive me (…. best “sweet girl smile” I can muster 🙂 )

So to begin at the beginning… this is roughly what has kept me away…

1. The Pune Trip (You guys know about this one)

2. The Assam Trip (….and you know about this one too)

3. Then we got a new Team Lead….. a lady. You will get to read about her in future posts but for now… I think it would suffice to say, that she is forty, damn good looking, unmarried, and PROFESSIONAL.  Ofcourse these are first impressions 🙂 but they impressed me.  The fact that she is fit, the fact that she doesn’t idle away time, the fact that “winds of change” are sweeping through our team since her arrival and the fact, that I would have to polish up my act! 😀

So I spent too weeks trying to be professional too. So no blogging from office, and no idling away time… and taking my work seriously…. and trying to make over my image  ( appearances to perception to knowledge). I guess I felt challenged after a long time. And working and not dwindling away precious time…. felt good.  And so I went with the flow… and only worked and worked… and got serious about my professional life for 2 -3 weeks.

4. And after that we got news about an emergency surgery MIL had to go through and so we were in Delhi for a couple of weeks with them. The surgery was a little complicated, due to MIL’s medical history… but Aal Izz Well now 🙂

And so I am back! 🙂

Other than that, the regular news from our side ( H says “Hi” by the way.. ) is that we are going through another serious of thoughts about self improvement, about future planning and the random stuff that we keep bothering with… so H has in his list.. things like…. “I will watch more sports”… “I will get fit” and I have in mine, stuff like…. “Will spruce up the home even more”… “Will read more” … “and will socialise more” 

…ofcourse, now that I am back… you will get to read more in depth posts around all of these topics!

Oh… and I know a lot has happened with my bloggy friends since I was here last.. I have been reading you guys but haven’t been regular with commenting either ( 😦 )… so…

Congratulations on being in the family way again Sonia

And Dee,  hope your time away from the in laws is fun filled and that you guys are rocking B’lore!

Congrats to Parul and Devika on their babies 🙂

And all the rest of you…. missed ya’all! Will be re-stalking you guys again!

Remember I told you guys that my best friend N is going away from India for like a 1.5 – 2 years?

Am sooooooper excited because I am using up the April 2- Good Friday long weekend and going to meet her! And I know it will be fun!

You know, as much as one feels happy about being married and living the good life with H, I still have these “longings” for things as they were pre-marriage ( Don’t ask me why… I’m crazy!) And as I have observed, these revolve around two things…..

1. Lack of male attention ( SS looks left – right furtively, to make sure no one looking at her sheepish expression waala face)

2. “Being my own person” – another theme I totally dig!

Ok, by my own submission, I have been the grateful (and haughty on most days!) receiver of a lot of attention of the male kind. I know am not being humble… trust me, am trying to!! Obviously post marriage, that “attention” has diminished. I really don’t know how guys make these things out? Its a part of their highly sophisticated female tracking system, methinks…. Face scan… retina scan… clothes scan… and kaboom!!!….Branded “Married”.

 How???

Obviously I am feeling pretty “ghar ka murgi” types right now.. or maybe I would’nt have written this post ..or if nothing else works we can always blame in on the hormones…I could really use an ego boost about my desirability! So any attention coming, from some intense sounding, filmy, Dark Handsome guy…. totally welcome! 😀

Ofcourse … I might add… all of the attentions will be ignored… me being happily married to H and all that. So ofcourse there is no incentive for any one who wishes to bestow their attentive gaze.. except for the nirmal aanand of the act of bestowing that gaze….”The journey is the reward”

Sigh!

But I digress….

Now to the main topic…..

The next lovely pleasant little thought that plays hide and seek with my mind is … “Being my own person”

You know… when one starts out in relationship, one is dying to be owned 🙂 Girl Friends go gaga over “possessive” boyfriends. Ofcourse.. that  passes… and suddenly you are back to craving your independance. Now the people who read my blog .. know that I happen to be a pretty sincere wife.  No seriously… I am! (ok… go ask H! :-/ )

In fact, I really wish at times that I was more selfish…. am not.  I get hassled with us having a lovely place to stay… about being relatively sociable.. about what we eat and our plans… and crazy as it sounds… sometimes I remember those times when I just thought of me myself alone.  There are soooo many things to balance now! The family, with festivals.. with relatives and friends and us.   Those were hassle free days… coz obviously I was caring for one person only…

…”Me”

😀

And so… I am going on a Girl’s Only holiday.  I am really really looking forward to it. I love Pune! loooooovvvee it! Ohhh the vada pavs, the misal pavs, the dabeli…. Marzorin….MG Road, JM Road, FC road.  The plan comprises “Eating” and “Shopping”  and random walks down memory lane 🙂

It will be back to “Being my own person” atleast for weekend!  Sometimes you can have the best of both worlds

..that being married to H…

..and being in Pune…. and rocking it.. with my best friend!

((happy smiles.. and Ms India type hand waving to the general audience)

😀 😀 😀

Woke up this morning… logged into WordPress and what do we see??? The total no. of visits have gone up to 1021! Yes… that many visits! I wasn’t expecting that too happen till next week… so  YAHOOOOOOOOO!!!

Its an importance milestone on this blog……a 1000+ visits! I’m sitting in my chair.. beaming away, looking a little stupid. I’m smiling so much that if anyone came over right now… I’d look like the picture of a really content employee  (Which I certainly am not… you know right??)

When I started blogging… I wasn’t really sure of how this blog would turn out… would it be interesting, or funny or insightful.  I knew I wanted to write… and I wanted to make friends 🙂 And you know what, I’m beginning to like it here. I feel involved, and I really do understand now what it is to have friends whom you would probably never have seen but feel so much for!

Am sooper excited that some of you come over and read the stuff I’ve been writing 🙂 And hopefully some of you come back too ! 😀 

Thank you all so much for making me feel welcome…. for entertaining comments by me, an arbit stranger as she struggled with her bearings 🙂 Thanks for listening to my rants, and raves, the funnies, and the funniers.  Thanks for being there… and thanks for commenting (it keeps my morale up! because I don’t always trust the numbers … which is an irony cause we are celebrating my 1000 visitors, aren’t we?… 😀 )

How about some Cake to celebrate???  Blackforest? Chocolate Fantasy?? Ok… here goes…

And how about some wine??? 

Cheerios… .teh… Chak de phatte people! Looking forward to the next 9000 visits to the next milestone 🙂 Keep the faith… laugh more, worry less and generally have a blast!

Before anything else… “Happy Holi!”

Hope you guys had a great time and went all out with the colors and the water balloons and the works 🙂

We did do the customary gulal bit, that was as much as there was to it… both of us had office… and so the day passed as normally as any other

On the weekend though, some things happened with some of my friends and their trysts with Luuuurrrve and finding their special someones and some of that happened at our place. And so this is what I offer as my Holi post 😀

So my friend S come over to stay with us. She’s a lively, easy going soul, and chirpy and totally not conscious or concerned about the ways of the world. Naturally, whenever she comes over, we have a blast. It’s like we go back to being unencumbered teenagers, throwing things at each other, singing and talking loudly, having passionate discussions about new ideas that are far out from our own lives. It is refreshing and lots of fun.

H has a friend D. D is genuine, sincere, self conscious. He is very aware of the world… too aware me thinks… and I don’t think he is really comfortable with the fact that “the world is watching”

Now… both D and S are in their individual capacities, looking for love and companionship. And in a case of opposites attract, I have a strong feeling that D likes S…

We love both of them, and are equally protective and concerned about both of these amazing people, but H and me are poles apart in thinking of what needs to be done in the situation. H wants to take every opportunity to throw them together, give them a lot of time “on their own” by suspiciously vanishing from the scene, and generally drops obvious hints. I on the other hand, am treading cautiously. I kinda have an idea of what S wants in a guy.. and I know that D will be heart broken if he pursues this any longer. I also know that D is getting increasingly fond of S. And S, by her own admission too, is not at all interested in anything more than being friends!

So H and I have been discussing and we came to a conclusion that we would hence forth not egg anyone on! But the fact is that we love both of theirs company and so it is awesome when we all meet. Like this weekend…

This weekend again the two were thrown together for some extended time. Lunch and movie and car rides and coffee and dinner and the talking till late in the night. Ofcourse we did not connive to throw them together, and I don’t think any of the three of us ( S, H or me) gave any ‘encouraging’ signs to D. We all were together all the time. But again I saw D getting a little serious. Anytime S would say something about the profiles she has been looking at for marriage, I could see D listening intently. Whenever S said something about guys… D was defending it zealously. In the car, he’d play music to suit her tastes… the entire jing bang you know…

… so… I am worried!  

What do you think I should do?

I have these options

1. Do nothing. I have dropped obvious enough hints and now me interfering any which way will amount to meddling

2. Keep dropping hints to D

3. Not arrange get-togethers for some time involving the both of them.

What do you say? Should I pitch in?

What do you do when your best friend of 11 years pings you and tells you that she is moving out of the country for the next 1 – 2 years…

Are you happy? For the exciting new world she is stepping into?.. for the experiences she will have, the people she will meet, the places she will see…

…or… are you sad? Because you will probably never ever be in the same boat together again. She will not be online for you to share your silly thoughts… she will never be close enough to visit on a long weekend, and going forward, both of your lives will change, and go along divergent paths?

Actually.. you will be both… and both unsuccessfully… 😦

N and I. Best friends. Sisters.. more like it. Connected at the heart. Always together.

N and I go back a long way… 11 years! We met for the first time on the 3rd or 4th day of college and from then, there was no stopping us.  We had so much in common… the things we laughed about, the things that bothered us, our dreams about life, our friends, our teachers, our subjects…from what we did in class, to what we did out of it.

Most of all… our conversations… yes.. 🙂  those lovely conversations… starting from the days when we were standing on the bus stop waiting for the DTC buses… in scorching Delhi heat. We’d get so engrossed in our talks, that we were ready to brave more heat and give buses a miss, one after the other, so that we could just talk… to now.. when we ping each other almost each day… sharing mundanities of our world.  We always had access to each other, in person… over phone, over smses… over Gtalk. No matter what was going on in our lives…  We never let go…We went from being on the same path to being on parallel paths…but there was always a link… we were always in our “phases” together. 

We went through further studies, through our love lives, through marriage almost in sync.. with similar hopes and fears and dreams… showing each other the sunshiny side of things when the other was in the pits.. I had always felt that we would be “growing old together’… with me a wild and whacky mausi to her sensible kids and she a sensible mausi to my wild set.

Somehow… after a long time, I feel like we are not in sync… not on parallel paths… but on diverging ones. I have a feeling that the coming 1-2 years will change us an awful lot. She is still a new bride…with a life full of possibilities, and excitement… and I have a headstart on her with marriage.. and will be on the threshold of starting a family. We will have different priorities…. will be feeling different things… and both of us will be taking such huge steps… that we will change as people.

I hate how we just cannot take certain things for granted anymore… Like life long friendship…like being in each others thoughts… like being able to reach people…. like knowing that I will not have to pack my bags and leave for a new country tommorrow, like a regular job… where I go, do my work, without a thought of yesterday or tomorrow.

Today..I see no sense in planning because we are living in a world which is ever changing.

I see no meaning of “forever” 😦

PS: N, I wish you all the very very best on this new and exciting journey that you are embarking on. You are a lovely person and you truly truly deserve the best 🙂  Don’t think about this post much.. its most probably the hormones!  I know that we will try our best to always be in sync. Please start a blog! Please!  ( ya, I know that you know that I was going to say this 😀 )

Lots of Hugs and lots of more hugs

…and bear hugs

…and crazy.. “let’s rock it till we are 80′ dancing hugs

I love you!

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